Sometimes Usually a story is the best way to both teach a principle and persuade someone to believe it. When I talk about ‘scripting’ in the facility – meaning there are words and phrases we shall and shall NOT say, I illustrate with a real-life story. I also use this same story to talk about ‘being on stage.’
When my daughter was 5 years old we took her to Disneyland for the first time. Like most 5 year old girls, she was totally ‘over’ Mickey Mouse. Please. She was there for one reason and one reason alone … to mix it up with her favorite princesses. It’s all about the Disney Princesses. Clothes, plates, utensils, tiaras, videos, etc. It’s a racket.
We discovered that Pocahontas (yes, she’s an official Disney Princess. Don’t fight it) was hanging out over by the Pirates of the Caribbean. We clasped hands and booked it! We were dodging and weaving through the mass of people … and, there she was. We froze. Oh my goodness. She squeezed my hand. She looked up at me.
There were a few girls in line to meet the princess and take a picture beside her. My daughter couldn’t move. She was too scared. I leaned down and gave her some encouragement. I promised her she could do it and that I’d take a picture for her. I told her how sweet Pocahontas is …
She gradually made it to the line and expectantly stared forward. Finally, her turn. The Indian Princess greeted her, put her arm around her (and my son who was pretty oblivious to the whole coming of age moment for his bigger sister) and posed for the picture. The princess asked my daughter’s name and thanked her for meeting her.
My daughter rushed to me and I showed her the picture. We walked away holding hands and I knew what she was thinking … ‘my dad is the best dad in the whole world!’ Ok, maybe not. She was probably marveling at her luck to meet the real Pocahontas.
[end of story]
Now, what in the world does that have to do with quality care in a nursing home? In fact, it is helps me show one of the most important aspects of providing great care … that all of us in a SNF are always ‘on stage’ …
Can you imagine if Pocahontas acted like some of our staff?
Right after I take the photo, Princess P comments to another Disney employee (character)
‘Man, can you believe it? Snow White called off AGAIN! I’ve got to go be Snow White tonight.’ OR …
‘There’s too many visitors today.’ OR …
‘I’m going on break.’
Do you see the comparison? How many times have our residents overheard something similar?
I’ll share a secret with you now … as long as you don’t share it with the wrong people (like my little girl). Pocahontas is not real. She’s an employee of Disneyland. Each of us is “on stage.” Just as Pocahontas was/is. While on stage, we have to act a certain way. The little girl would not put up with that. We are each Pocahontas for our residents. We must act, speak, and look a certain way while on the floor/stage. It’s up to us to DEFINE what is expected in terms of our actions, words, and appearance. If you don’t define it how can you achieve it?
Of course, on those bad days that we all have, we have to “act” a little more than on the good days. (Here’s a classic video I use to demonstrate this). Nevertheless, we’ve got to make each resident/visitor interaction count with EVERYONE.